Thursday, September 29, 2016

While it is important to keep up with world events, especially the events taking place in our own country, we still have to minimize the bad news intake.  It really always comes back to striking a balance.   As we move forward in life, working on being the best person we can be, it’s important to refuel on the positive regularly.  Whatever you do to find peace, do that.  If you pray, if you meditate, walk or listen to relaxing music, do that regularly.  I am a strong believer that you could never pray enough, especially in the day and age in which we live.  You can never meditate or do whatever moves you forward enough.  I read in the news today that there was another school shooting and people were injured.  Yet another disturbing situation.  Those of us who have a sound mind, free of psychosis and hatred, must be the stabilizing factor in our world.  We are lights in the darkness.   We have a responsibility to make sound decisions and we must act expeditiously.

We can’t allow people or events to drag us into the muddy quagmire every day.  Although there are people who have a mansion on Quagmire Lane, we say no thank you, we are not a fan and Quagmire lane will not be our permanent address.  We won’t live there today – we won’t live there ever! In the midst of the storm find your calm. Remember what your core focus is.  Going back to your core focus will keep you grounded.  It will balance you.  What is it that keeps you encouraged, what gives you hope for a better tomorrow – focus on that.  What can you do? Like anything else, we are either part of the problem or part of the solution.  Which part will you be?   Now that you figured that out, the rest is easy - start doing what helps your cause.   Positive energy must win out on negative energy, just as good must always conquer evil.  I am persuaded that we are able.

Do not be confused about your direction or destination, regardless of how many bumps may be on the road on your way.  Stay focused Diva.  Educate yourself on matters that are important and make sound, decisions. Be prepared to act.  But above all, Stand!

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

I use to think that starting your own business was a good idea and should be encouraged.   My views on business ownership is now stronger.  It is imperative that we begin to give serious thought to opening our own businesses.  It is important, when and where possible, that we begin to be more business minded as it pertains to our financial affairs. 

Why start your own business.  Diva I have reasons:

1.        It’s yours – financial independence is a great goal.  One of the best.
2.       You can pass it on – your family will benefit from your ingenuity
3.       You can be the change you want to see in the world. – You can mentor and provide jobs.
4.       Investing in yourself means you get the reward of your hard work.
5.       Schedule flexibility – depending on the business you choose with a laptop you can work from anywhere in the world.
6.       Job security – it’s all up to you.
7.       You can be impactful – Be a catalyst for change
8.       Build wealth
9.       Tax benefits

Find your niche’.  Only you know how you can contribute to society, making it a better place for you, your family and mankind.  It will take stamina, tenacity, courage and sheer determination.  Get those sleeves up girl - let’s go.   We can be and do anything we put our minds to do.  Don’t settle for good be great.  

Let’s promise to spend more time strategizing with the goal of entrepreneurship in mind.  It is hard some might say, so what.  Living in poverty was hard too, and we have overcome that, so let’s apply what we know to our future for us and future generations.  It’s time for us to make some changes, it is time to put those fancy degrees to work.  Be about it.

Monday, September 26, 2016

Understanding racism in America.  I grew up around blacks, Spanish and white people and learned from an early age to treat everyone the same.  I learned that there are good and bad people of all nationalities and that it is important to judge people, Like Martin Luther King said, “on the content of their character and not the color of their skin.”  After all, I pride myself on being an intelligent, educated, fair and rational human being.   What is concerning to me, is not that there are racists in America because there are rapists and murderers too.  What is concerning is that there are people who choose to take a passive position on the subject of extreme hate that leads to murder?  I suspect that the rapist or murderer will think what they doing is okay, but I don’t understand what is wrong with the rest of us.

What would make us sit around and see acts of terrible violence, atrocities happening on our streets and feel unbothered or unconcerned by these horrific events?  Everyone has a right to their opinion, how be it wrong or skewed but, can we all agree that the final act of murder is wrong?  Does America no longer have a soul?  Are we part of an enigma with no answer in sight?  Do we know longer have a conscious and lack moral aptitude?  Violence will only cause more violence, and it will eventually affect someone that we care about.  Will we become a nation of vipers attacking whom we please?  Will we have to arm ourselves to the max and walk through the streets in packs with machine guns?  Is this the model that the greatest country in the world think it should aspire to?  There are countries where this is the norm.  Kill or be killed, are we sure this is the type of country we want to become?  Have we learned nothing from our past?  America better take inventory of its position.  There will always be a reaction for every action.  I think it’s time we start taking the right action before we miss that opportunity.  Let freedom reign.

Friday, September 23, 2016

5 things to know about dressing like a diva

      1.   Wear clothing that fits and suits your body type.   Tight or short clothing that shows every line,       hook and sinker in your skin is not attractive.  It’s okay to leave some things to the imagination.

     2.  Follow the color wheel when it comes to matching your clothing, too many colors that don’t match takes away from the outfit.

     3. Jewelry is fabulous, but too many large pieces worn together looks too busy.

     4.  Have a few important staples.  In your wardrobe every diva needs:  The little black dress; the professional looking blazer, the quite essential pencil skirt, and black pumps and black flats.

     5.  Last but certainly not least the perfect handbags.

 Then of course you build from here.  Take pride in how you look.  Have fun with fashion and enjoy every minute of your life.  You don’t need a lot of clothing.  You need pieces that you can layer and pieces that can be worn with other clothing to make multiple looks.  It’s all about a few good pieces and accessories.  

Thursday, September 22, 2016

A girlfriend of mine read my blog and asked me, “Well, what’s up with the Diva thing?  How can the average person think like a diva?”  I’m so glad she asked that question, you know I’m going to answer it.  How the average person goes about thinking like a diva is quite easy.  First, you have to know your worth.  You must value yourself and expect others to see the value in you.  If there are things about you that makes that difficult to do, you work on those things and change them. 

Thinking like a diva means that you have to change your mindset, you literally upgrade yourself.  You strive to be your best self.  You work on your health, your education, your personal life and yes, diva’s work on their look.  They find their style and sharp is what it is – just so you know.  Divas are dynamos they push themselves and others forward.  They bring energy to everything they do.  Light that match honey and let the sparks fall where they may.  So all women have diva potential, but thinking like a diva requires action.  Get ready to do your life’s work, enjoy the best days of your life girl.  Think fabulous, think fun, think classy, think diva.

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

It saddens and sickens me to hear that another African American man was shot in the back by a white police officer. How many people must be murdered before we say enough is enough!    On September 16, 2016, a 40 year old man named Mr. Crutcher was assassinated by a police officer in Tulsa, Oklahoma.  How do you go from responding to a stalled vehicle to shooting this man with his back towards you and hand in the air.  Now I see in the news that he had drugs in his car, which if true, I certainly don't condone drug use. But if he broke the law that way, death is not the legal punishment.  And who knows, during investigations of similar police crimes, drugs and weapons have been planted on victims before to justify their murder.  There was no gun found on him or in his vehicle.  This senseless killing is happening way too often.  Do citizens need to fear for their life if their car stalls or if they are stopped for a traffic violation?  What is going on in America, and how long will it continue? 

It’s not okay to kill unarmed citizens of this country or any other country for that matter.  Whether you wear a police uniform or not, if you kill someone who posed no threat to you, you are a murderer and should be punished for your crime to the fullest extent of the law.  How can murder of anyone ever be okay? These men are fathers, sons, brothers, husbands and we can’t keep killing them because of the color of their skin - who does that.  You don’t have to be African American to see the injustice is these acts.  Every rational human being should be disgusted.

Are we no longer a civilized nation?  The United States is not a third world country.   It’s not okay to hunt men as if they were animals.  I’m certain that good police officers don’t appreciate being grouped with thugs and murders who are wearing the same uniform as they are. 

The job of a police officer is to serve and protect, not kill the innocent.  Diva I truly hope that this stops and hopefully we will be able to circumvent the next possible civil war in the United States. At that point, we will no longer have the luxury of acting like this do not affect us, it will affect every single one of us.  The way things are going in America, we don't have to worry about terrorists, we are killing our own people ourselves.

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

We don’t have to wait until father’s day to tell our dads we love them.  Did you hug your dad today?  Well, what are you waiting for, get to it girl?  Sometimes we take our dad’s for granted.   We love them, they're always around, “we’ll visit when we can”, we think.  It’s so important for us to let the people that we love hear that we love them often.  You could never hug your dad enough. You could never tell him you love him enough.  Every Diva knows that when the cards are down, Dad always comes through.  So, if you have a wonderful dad who continues to be your superhero, even after you’re grown – be sure to give him lots of hugs and kisses. 

You will never know when you may be seeing your dad for the last time.  We have to appreciate the fact that time is limited and not assume our loving dad will be around forever, he will not be.  So give him roses while he can smell them and tell him how much you appreciate him.  Let’s make father’s day, every day of the year!

Monday, September 19, 2016

Starting your own business is a good idea – but you already know that.  So many of us have the idea, but it goes no further than that.  Like everything else in life, it’s never too late to get started on your personal goals.  I know I don’t have to speak on the benefits of having your own business, especially if it gets successful enough to take you off of your 9 – 5.  Do consider the fact, that even if you’re new small business can’t match your salary, having multiple income streams can never be a bad idea.  Besides, you may very well enjoy every aspect of your start-up project.

If you have a service or a product that you think would be profitable, start your research.  In most cases, you’re not the only one who thought about that particular service or product.  You could perhaps learn from others who have already started a similar business, especially if it is profitable.  There are laws and regulations pertaining to doing business in your state so you’ll need to know what those are.  Just know that in America, Uncle Sam will expect his share by way of the collection of sales taxes.  You’re a consumer so you know first-hand how that works.  Not a problem, you collect it and send it in.

Thanks to the World Wide Web, you can do business anywhere in the world.  Imagine that, how absolutely wonderful.  So first things first, you need a business plan, you can get samples on the net.  Creating a business plan will give you the opportunity to organize your thoughts as you begin to form your new business.  Choose a business name, check to make sure no one else has that name, then register it with the state.  Decisions, decisions, sole proprietor, LLC, Corporation – you have options.

Get started, if you never begin, you will never reach your goal.  Diva, just know your possibilities for success are endless.  Begin your first venture and have fun with it.  There is nothing to it, but to do it.  Repeat that three times and smile. 

Sunday, September 18, 2016

How do you feel about your girlfriend dating your X?  Even worse, your girlfriend or other relative trying to speak to your Ex-husband.  I can’t imagine what that must feel like, but I am certain it can’t feel good.  In my opinion, the girl code needs to be honored.  You don’t date your sister’s ex-husband, girlfriends X anybody.  There are plenty men in the world, go find another.

I can only speak for myself when I say, women have to carry themselves as such.  Don’t cheapen your worth by picking up your girlfriends leftovers.  Ladies have to get to the point where we are not so willing to let ourselves get played.  Relationships that start off this way usually end up the same way.  I think it’s important to always treat others the way you want to be treated, especially when it comes to personal relationships.  Besides, who wants to be that rebound chic, it’s not a good look.

 So the next time a friends X gives you a call to see how you’re doing Diva, say “I’m fine, I prefer you don’t call though – no offense – take care.  Goodbye.”  

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Saturday, September 17, 2016

What do you love?  Well, speaking for myself, I love a fabulous handbag.  I know everybody has their thing, this is mine.  There are some cute, inexpensive bags that you can rock – at least for a while.  But in too many cases, inexpensive bags will be replaced fairly quickly.  Unfortunately the workmanship is….well, you get what you pay for. 

Now I’m not advocating for spending your last buck on a bag.  It doesn’t make sense to purchase a nice bag and have no money to put in it – you get my drift.  When you purchase a well-made pocketbook, though, you won’t have to replace it for years. 

Stylish bags like everything else, is a fashion statement, so if you’re dressed nicely, the right makeup and shoes, the perfect bag will complete your outfit.  Of course you have to buy the right bag for the right occasion – that goes without saying.   The smart way to shop for a designer bag, like anything else, is to catch it on sale. Diva, we don’t have money to waste so get the best price for the product.  Everything good in life is good in moderation, so don’t try to become the bag queen overnight.  Happy shopping.

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Friday, September 16, 2016

It’s so nice to get out with the girlfriends once in a while.  It’s great to catch up, getting all the dets (details) from them.  Everybody is so busy these days, we rarely get a chance to hang out.  I’m always so excited to hear, who went back to school, that wonderful vaca or the plans to purchase a new house.  Exciting stuff.  Then there’s the not so good news, who got divorced, who’s been in and out of the hospital and who died.  We all know how important it is to support our girls during these painful and trying times.  I know this is all a part of life, but knowing that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with does it?

I need my girls to be around for a long time.  At least as long as they could be, so we all have to do a better job of taking care of ourselves, so that we would be.  I not only want them to live a long life, but live a long life with quality.  So I challenged my girlfriends, the few that I have.  On a side note, it’s amazing how that number drops as the years go on.  People move away or just get caught up in their lives.  There is the occasional falling out.  Anyway, getting back to my original thought, I challenged my girlfriends to meet me around the track three times a week.   Exercising plays a big role in our overall health.  Did you know that it helps with memory and improve your ability to learn?  It also reduces stress and helps you get a better night’s sleep.  Did you know it helps you to live longer and have more energy as well?  Who couldn’t use more energy.  You’ll look better and feel better, the list could go on and on.

It doesn’t matter what state or country your best girl is living in, she could jump on the track or in the park at the same time you do.  And yes, you all could catch up on all the dets at that time.  Well, truthfully speaking, if you haven’t exercised for a while and you’re getting back into the game like I am, you might want to hold off on the catch up convo.  You’ll need that time to breath – no shade I’m in the same boat.  But before you know it, we’ll all be fit and fabulous Diva and then let the conversation begin…

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Thursday, September 15, 2016

Have you ever had a spa day?  It is absolutely the very best thing you can do for yourself.  Okay, not the very best thing  - that would be two weeks in the Cayman Islands.  It’s a real good thing though.  It’s so nice to get a facial and a massage.  And if you can spring for it, a mani and pedi, it will have you leaving your spa day feeling like a brand new person from head to toe.

Yes, you’ll look a little goofy, okay truth be told, you'll look a little scary.  It won't be the time to take a selfie but you’ll feel great.  After a hard week of work, grab a Diva and drag her along.  Go relax, have some fun, and rejuvenate.  Why, because you deserve it girl!

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You have the capacity to be or do anything you put your mind to.  In other words, high goals are within your reach.  Yes, you have the ability – but I know you are aware that it takes more than that.  Understanding that you have the potential for greatness comes with a certain responsibility.  It’s the responsibility to act.  You must do something, you know that you should - but it often does not happen.  Life makes it easy to procrastinate because there are a thousand other things that we can occupy ourselves with, instead of goals that are essential to our upward mobility.  There are people that we hang around with who are very satisfied with where they are.  I’m not knocking that completely, but life is short and there are so many things that we can do to improve our life, our families, and support charities.  There are people around the way that we can help.  That seems to be a more significant objective than I’ll stay here, right here forever….

If you are not working toward reaching the fullness of your capacity, then you also know that you are missing the mark.  You could hang with your “comfortable, I’m fine being where I am” friend, but you will never quite feel that same level of comfort - that is not where you belong.  When much is given, much is expected.  If you are not going to be the motivator for yourself and your friend, then you need to add another friend to your circle Diva.  Your new friend has to be someone who has their sights set on higher goals.  My father use to always say, “You’re known by the company you keep.”  I know that to be true.  I’ll go a step further to say, the company you keep can either influence you to be better or encourage you to be stagnant.

It is so very important to choose people in your inner circle who are movers and shakers.  You can’t afford to weigh yourself down with people who are not going anywhere and therefore want you to do the same.   A good friend will motivate you and encourage you to be your best self and to strive for higher heights.  Seek out these guys, but in the meantime, encourage yourself and get ready to take full advantage of the God given capacity you have.  Put your whole heart in it and push your capacity to the limit.

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Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Thought my readers would find this interesting.  These are partial stats of my readers from around the word.  Pretty cool.  I'm happy to have you check out my site.  I see that some of you check in everyday awesome - Enjoy.

Most of us tend to be social beings.  We enjoy having our friends or family members come along on vacations, to the movies and shopping.  We enjoy having our peeps around for company and just an overall good time.  Excursions are planned so we can hang out or we invite our company over.  That is absolutely wonderful – that’s how it should be.  But sometimes, life doesn’t work out that way.  There comes a time in every woman’s life when she has to go it alone – at least for a while.  If you haven’t experienced it yet (wait for it) you will.

As we walk through life, there will be seasons that we are best to walk alone.  It won’t feel comfortable, because we are such social beings, but it is absolutely necessary.  Sometimes you have to focus, no distractions, no detours, and no compromise.  When you get the opportunity to focus on yourself – take it.  Reflect on where you’ve been and think about where you want to go.  What is important to you? What makes you happy, who makes you happy?  How are you going to proceed in your life?  It doesn’t happen often Diva, but when it happens run towards it and not away.  Sometimes you get this small window to work on yourself and we have to take that time to thrive, to better ourselves, to be happy in our souls.  There is a reason for everything that happens – enjoy the moment.  You’ll get back to taking care of everybody soon enough.  Today, take care of you.

I wanted to take this opportunity to say thank you to my readers. In just three weeks this blog was viewed over 500 times.  I hope to continue to write articles "blog posts" that Diva's find interesting.  Thank you again.  Smooches

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

Teachers are some of the most amazing human beings.  Dedicating your life to giving others the tools they need to be successful is extraordinary.   We could never pay teachers enough for what they do. Every doctor, scientist, mathematician, lawyer, and every other profession you can think of, can make their contribution to society because they were taught how to do so by a teacher.

Administrators and parents alike must realize the talent and energy it takes to be a great teacher and support the teacher’s efforts.  Administrators can support teachers by providing them with the supplies, curriculum materials and technology they need to work with their students.  They can ensure that there are policies, procedures, and supports to deal with discipline concerns that provide the opportunity for teachers to 1. Teach, 2. Be respected by students. 3 be respected by parents.  Administrators can also provide reasonable class sizes, student ratios and staff schedules that allow a teacher to work effectively, efficiently teaching all students in the best educational environment possible.

So you’re wondering what we can do as parents, where shall I start...  We can show our children that we value education so that they can value it as well.  Parents can insist their children stick to a proper routine. 1. Get to bed at a reasonable time.  2. Work before play, get your homework – done – I’ll be checking it. 3.  Teach our children to respect all adults, especially their teachers. 4. Work collaboratively with teachers so that the students understand – you’re being sent to school to learn, period.  5. Stand with the teacher when she is correcting inappropriate behavior by your child.  Reinforce the rules and expectations at home. 6.  Teach children there are repercussions for what you do and don’t do.  Start with punishments / loss of privilege.  For example, that nice colored TV in your room, cell phone and designer sneakers – poof gone.  There are societal rules that our children must learn early.  We can’t wait until their behavior becomes a legal matter to address it.  Let’s give our children every opportunity to succeed in school and in life.  Teach them to understand boundaries and respect others.

At the end of the day, the teacher has her education and children can and have floated through the grades without getting their education.  Let’s give our teachers what they need to effectively do their job.  And then, let’s thank them for doing it well.

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Have you ever worked hard on a project just to find out your work was not appreciated, not even acknowledged, simply because it was done by you?  Perhaps the credit for your work was intentionally given to someone else.  Sometimes people have a hard time accepting your contribution due to their personal problems.  I learned a long time ago, not to take on or take ownership for anyone’s racism, hatred, jealousy or any combination of the above.  We can only be responsible for ourselves.  I can only hope that these people get the help that they need to work through their psychological difficulties.

If you know you’ve done an excellent job and people choose to act like you're invisible, just know, that’s their personal problem, not yours.  Your excellence will shine through regardless.  You must know who you are and what you bring to the table.  Disacknowledging your presence, will not make you disappear and it won’t change the high standards that you set for yourself.  Your work cannot be devalued, no matter how hard they may try.

Understand that unless you give someone your power, they don’t have it.  Hold your head up Diva and stay strong.  Somethings are more temporary than you think.  In the meantime – stand your ground and stay positive.  You cannot control other people’s behavior, but you can certainly control your own.

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Monday, September 12, 2016

Do you know that approximately 55% of our body weight is water?  And rightfully so, water plays a very large role in the proper operation of our bodies. Water in our blood carries nutrients to all of our organs.  It helps with cell formation and flushing organs to name a fewThe thing to know is, if we don’t drink enough water, we can suffer from kidney disorders, blood clots, low blood pressure and other serious illnesses that can be fatal.

So I’m sharing this tidbit of information just to remind everyone that it is absolutely important that we drink water regularly throughout the day, 64 ounces per day is a great start.  Take care of yourself and those you love, drink water regularly and encourage your family to do the same.  It’s a great way to flush toxins out of your system.  Get that cute water bottle and take it everywhere you go so that you can drink throughout the day.  Just one other way to take care of yourself Diva.  Drink up!

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Saturday, September 10, 2016

Sunglasses do a lot more than protect your eyes from the sun.  They can certainly be a fashion statement.  It’s amazing how the right sunglasses can give you such a hip, fabulous look.  I have one question for you diva, can you rock a cat eye?  I absolutely love a nice black pair. What about a round jeweled pair of shades?  A little too daring for me, but still very cute. The most important thing is that you find a pair that is right for you.  There is a rule of thumb that states it is best to choose a pair of glasses that best suit your face shape.  (i.e. Round face, round frames, oblong shape, oblong glasses etc.)  The scale of your glasses should also match the scale of your face, small face, small glasses, bigger face can support larger frames.

The most common face shapes are round, oval, oblong, triangle, diamond and square.  I know what you’re thinking, you’ve never seen a diamond or square shaped face person.  Come on now, it’s in a general sense of the shape.  I’m not saying there are block heads out there, at least I hope not.

Personally, I think you can go with the rule of thumb or you can simply try on a pair and see how you like them.  I don’t necessarily follow the rule of thumb all the time.  I agree that some of my glasses that match my face shape are my favorites.   However, I have a few pairs that are pretty nice that don’t follow the rule at all and they look fabulous.  In my opinion, if you love the shades and you feel they look absolutely fabulous on you, then go for it.  When you go to the store or online to shop for a pair of frames, try something new different, explore, enjoy.  If you can’t choose between two pairs, buy them both – problem solved.

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Friday, September 9, 2016

I was one of those ladies with one wonderful shade of lipstick.  My favorite, and only shade, was burgundy until my daughter (probably thinking, oh Lord, let me help mommy) literally forced me to try a variety of colors.  Everybody has their favorite shade of lipstick, but if you only wear one shade – you need to live a little, add some hip and sassy shades to your collection.    So, my daughter called me and said, “Mom, I’m taking you makeup shopping for your Birthday.”  I said, “Thanks honey”, just thinking it would be fun for us to spend some bonding time together.   Little did I know there was way more to it than that.  When we reached the store she said, mom choose the lipstick colors you like.  I went straight for, you guessed it, burgundy.  “That’s all I need”, I said.  My daughter said, okay mom – I’m going to help you and that is exactly what she did.

She went through the lipstick shades and chose another six colors and then we moved on to lip liners which I never wear.  So now I’m thinking, what did I get myself into?  I chose a brown and of course she chose five other shades.  After our little shopping excursion, we went home and she said you should try them on.  To my surprise, I loved every shade.  The liners definitely added a little jazz to the lipsticks and honey, before you know it, I was ready for Cosmopolitan.  Okay, maybe not cosmopolitan but I was looking ever so cute. 

Whatever lipstick color or colors you love, don’t be afraid to try new shades.  There are so many new hues.  Divas must be willing to expose themselves to new things.  Hey, it’s one of the lovely benefits of being a girl – have fun with it.  My lipstick excursion was one of my best birthdays ever, not only because my daughter and I had so much fun, but I can confidently diva up anytime, in a variety of shades.  Take a girlfriend or your daughter along and enjoy.  This is the only type of situation where it is absolutely okay to go ahead and be shady!!!

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Thursday, September 8, 2016

Why do women feel guilty if they take some time out of their own life for themselves?  Mothers and wives often make the decision that their families come first and we put ourselves on the back burner.  Problem is, we never cook on the back burner, so our needs go unmet way too often.   I think we must first admit to ourselves, that like every other human being on the planet (our significant other and children included) we should be equally placed on the “you come first” list.  Yes, when our children are very young they need us so much more, but we can share the responsibility of their care with others.  The truth is, that is very healthy for us as well as the children. 

Do we really think the world will end if we left the children home with dad and spend an hour with a friend?  Sometimes we just need a few minutes to have some private time with our own thoughts and we should allow ourselves that time.  I’m not saying that it won’t take some planning, having a conversation with your husband about your needs, and cautiously choosing sitters or temporary caregivers, but it can be done.  It absolutely should be done.  When we take care of ourselves, we are so much better in our caregiver role. 

I was travelling somewhere and recall the stewardess was going over safety measures on the plane.  She said if we lose oxygen, put the mask on yourself first.  Then put it on your children.  She was certainly speaking to every adult on the plane, but especially mothers.  It’s instinctual for us to protect our children.  However, our young children could not help us or themselves if we pass out after putting the mask on them.  That is why we have to put it on first.  The same applies true for regular life.  If we don’t take care of ourselves, we won’t be the best mother or wife we can be.  Too many women are going through life like the woman in the movie, “Coming to America” who said, “Whatever you like, I like” or a happy Stepford wife.  It seems so very normal, until we get a minute to reflect on our lives usually after a crisis.  You deserve to be a happy, healthy participant in your own life and not just a worker bee.  We must love ourselves just as much as we love our families.  Everything in life is about rotation.  There is a time for everything, including you.  Don’t get lost in the sauce, every ingredient is equally important in a great tasting meal.

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Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Don’t you just love it when people tell you, you can’t do something.  I don’t know about you, but it makes me smile inside.  Stated best in Beyone’s lyrics, I think to myself, “You must not know about me”.  I’m built for the challenge and I’m highly motivated, no - excited to try.  I’m confident that I can run my race and you best believe I will. 

Do you realize how powerful positive thinking is?  You tap into powers greater than yourself when you have faith and couple that with works.  I’ve heard of so many cases of people in the hospital who got better because they wouldn’t accept any other report.  People who greatly improved their life condition because they refuse to settle for less.

What we have going for us, is what we believe we can do and the effort we are willing to put into it, to get it done.  Do I think that you can, will yourself to be a doctor, Diva please!  That like everything else takes preparation and dedication.  I do believe, that if you want something bad enough, whatever it is – including being a doctor, you can do it if… you are willing to do what it takes to get there.  The problem is most people want to win the race, but no one wants to run it –let alone train six hours a day to prepare for it, change our diet, and our lifestyle.  Life simply don’t work that way – at least not for most of us. 

Sacrifices must be made, but the reward for that sacrifice is, you will have done exactly what you set out to do.  With each accomplishment, you will be further motivated to reach the next.  Your goal could be as simple as, I’m going to Italy in two years.  If you really mean it, and you're prepared to do what it takes to get there, you will.  When you get there, girl send me a postcard.

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Tuesday, September 6, 2016

Spread the love.  We often don’t realize the power we have in our tongue.  We can hurt people with cruel words or we could lift them up with words of kindness.  But we can only give what we have inside, that’s why it’s so important to fill our hearts and minds with healthy positive thoughts about people and life in general.  There are enough problems in this world to keep you plummeting head first down the unhappy hill f-o-r-e-v-e-r!!!  We need to stay mentally healthy for ourselves as well as our friends and family.  If you allow too much junk in, when it’s time for a release, you could certainly expect junk to come out.  Don’t allow yourself to get weighed down with bad news in the press or in life.  While it is necessary to stay informed, how much bad news do you really need?  Process the information, learn from it if necessary, but then let it go, and move on.

I find myself letting people go because their conversation and thoughts are always negative.  Everything is wrong with the world and life sucks.  Truth is, if that’s how you feel, then that is your reality.   We do have some control over our circumstances and if we don’t like how things are going, we certainly can come up with a plan to change things.  The struggle for me is trying to be supportive to someone who prefer to wallow in the negativity instead of changing what they don’t like.  I’m a problem solver by nature, so if you have a problem, the minute you share it with me, I’m thinking of at least 10 ways to move forward.  It’s important for me and actually everyone to move on and get back to a healthy state of mind.  Divas know that love is a better thing to spread around.  There is no room for negativity in my house=)

Monday, September 5, 2016

There is “a little girl in you”, who wants to be loved, adored, and taken care of.  She needs to be the princess of the day.  This little girl needs someone to think in advance of her needs to ensure her life is happy and as perfect as could be.  There may be times when things get a little touch.  When life gets tough, she wants someone to fight for her - she needs a champion, a champion who is not afraid to roar on her behalf.

This little girl may have been neglected by others and perhaps even by you.  You can’t change the past, but you can certainly impact the future.  Make sure this little girl gets what she needs from now on.  Put her first, at least some of the time.  If you take care of the princess inside, the Diva outside can move forward in a positive fashion.  We can’t be afraid to take care of old hidden wounds.  If we do, they will fester and infect our whole life.  Sometimes to move forward, we have to take two steps back.  Be the champion “the little girl in you” needs today.

Sunday, September 4, 2016

So the summer is over and it’s back to business, as usual.  I’m such an island girl, as long as I’m on the beach on an island somewhere – I’m good.   This summer I stayed close to home, but the beach and the waves will forever be on my mind.  To me, it’s the most relaxing place in the world to be.  The air is fresh and crisp.  You can hear the waves crashing on the beach and then there’s the sand.  I love it all. 

I purchased the most amazing sign for my sun room.  It says, “You can shake the sand from your shoes, but it will never leave your soul”.  Absolutely –awesome.  When I’m beach-side, I have the clearest head.  Some of my best plans and goals come to me when I’m there.  In a few months, the streets will be covered with snow.  It’s wonderful for about two-minutes, if you’re inside and peeking out the window.  If you’re out in the elements – it has nightmare potential.  All winter long all I can think about is thank God the sand is in my soul.  Summer will come again and guess where this diva will be?

Thursday, September 1, 2016

I’m all for glam.  Everybody has times in their life when they want to look their absolute best.  But there are a few things that concern me.  One is, we have to really pay attention to the products that we are putting on our face.  The last thing we want is cheap makeup clogging our pours or worse.  We also have to pay attention to the age of the products.  Makeup doesn’t stay fresh forever.  Cheap, old makeup is definitely, by far, the worst thing we could use on our delicate facial skin.  It can cause some damage.

This article is not an endorsement for one brand of makeup over another.  Although I have my favorites, I won’t even mention them.  It is more important that you take the time to do your homework and at least, look into what chemicals go into your favorite makeup compared to other brands.  Find out what effect those chemicals may have on your skin over time.  You know the saying you get what you pay for, in this case, it may be true.  You may think you found a bargain, but that should be tested and verified.  I’m sure you would agree that anything that has the potential to age or otherwise damages your skin, should be left on the store shelf.

I think it’s a good idea to also have a skin care routine to take the best care of your skin, especially since we wear makeup.  Know your skin type is it: dry, oily, mixed or sensitive.   Then buy the proper cleaning and moisturizing etc products that complement your skin type.  Additionally, you will need to consider your skin type when purchasing makeup.  For example, if you have oily skin, purchasing makeup with an oil base may not be the best choice. 

I encourage you to do a little research and come up with a plan and products that will take care of your delicate facial skin and keep it looking lovely for as long as you can.  Then follow some basic rules.  Don’t wear makeup too young, too long or too often.  And of course don’t wear too much.  Give your skin opportunities to breathe so it can stay healthy.  When it’s time to glam up do so, but also take the best care of your skin diva – it’s the only one you have.

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