Make your house a home.   It doesn’t matter whether you live in a studio or a six bedroom house, it’s so important to make your house a home.  People don’t always put a lot a thought into how they want to use the space and what really would make them happy.  What makes you happy and how you interpret that in your space is what changes the game diva. 

It all begins with the bones.  Layout, open concept or not?  Is it painted nicely with the colors that you like?   Does it have plenty of natural lighting?  Does the space just need a little love and personal touches or is it going to be a start from scratch situation.  Whatever the case, make it yours.

Who cares if you own the property or if you are renting it.  It doesn’t matter.  What matters is that you are very happy in the space.  You know, the kind of happy that makes you can’t wait to get home.  Put your stamp on it.  Love it, create environments that you want to live in.  After all, if you worked hard every day, don’t you deserve to come home to a place where you can rejuvenate?  Sure you do, make it happen.  All it takes is Pinterest and a plan.  Let the fabulousity begin.

So many people are struggling with being true to themselves or anyone else for that matter.  What they are doing and what they are saying do not line up.  For example, if you say you are focusing on saving, but you are shopping every day, there is a disparity.  Or you say that you are vegan, but you’re eating big Macs from McDonalds, I don’t get.  Whoever you are and whatever you do, it’s best to own it. 

It simply makes so much more sense to be who you say you are.  I don’t understand the need to live on Fantasy Island.  Can I keep it real divas?  I tend to prefer to deal with people who are real.  People who are honest with themselves and speak the truth about their direction.  I’m not asking for any information, but if you are going to give it to me, I prefer it not be misinformation.

Don’t get me wrong, I am all for trying to do better, but if you are not there yet, it’s better to be honest about it. Matter of fact, why speak on it at all.  If we can’t be honest with ourselves, who can we be honest with.  Life is less confusing when we do what we say and say what we mean.  Let’s keep it real.

If I had a penny for every time I heard someone say there aren’t any good men left, I would be a millionaire.  This isn’t about male bashing, although a few of them could use a bash or two.  There are men that act a whole fool – let’s be real.  I realize they are not alone, it’s not like woman hasn’t done the unthinkable in relationships, some have.  But let’s get back to the men shall we.

There are families that took the time to raise their children well, instilling in them a code of ethics and values.  These mothers and fathers made it clear, the world does not revolve around them.  Then you have the mother we acts like her son is “little baby Jesus” who could do no wrong.  Well, in most cases, this kid will grow up thinking he is a gift to women, a gift they must share.  There are woman who do everything for their sons.  They know their son have at least five girlfriends and brush it off saying “oh their young”, he’ll settle down.  And this diva, is partly to blame for the grown boys you may have met today.  You see, I’m of the opinion that age does not necessarily make you a man.

We teach our sons that their need is a priority and our daughters that their significant other comes first, we too perpetuate the problem.  I don’t have a son, but if I did, he would learn how to cook, clean and take care of himself being a proper partner to his significant other and family.  He would also learn that selfishness is not okay.  Date one girl at a time Fabio.  What you practice is what comes natural to you.  A marriage license is a piece of paper and if a man has been in the habit of juggling a number of female relationships for years, that is what he will do.  The paper does not have magical powers that will stop him.  It’s all about respect and commitment and it’s something that should be practiced from day one.

So the next time you think to say there are no good single guys left, be sure you’re not part of the problem.  Your son will be someone’s boyfriend and then husband one day.  And what you instill in him today will make the difference in the future.  Remember, no matter how much we love our children, wrong is still wrong and right is still right and carmer well, it can be a tough teacher.  Encourage your son’s to put out in the world what they would want to come back to him.  Because in some shape or form it certainly will.  

Have you ever thought about making one relaxing spot in your home?  What about a themed room.  It’s absolutely delicious.  I just completed what I happily named “my beach room”.  It’s perfect.  I love the beach and it’s my relaxing go to spot.   But unfortunately, there’s no going to the beach in the middle of the winter.  So, I took the beach home.  I decorated my beach room with seashells and sand, a collection of rocks and pebbles.  I have the most amazing picture of a turtle on my wall.  A fabulous boat I decorated especially for the occasion.  Everything about the space, including my collection of twigs and sea glass makes me feel so at home, I don’t know why I didn’t think of doing this before.  It’s the most relaxing place in my home and I spend so much time there. 

There is nothing like a diva sanctuary and every diva must have one.  Think about what that may look like for you and begin your “project relaxation” girl.  It could be a corner of a room or an entire room.  Take your time and make it a space worth living in.  Enjoy the journey.

Follow your dreams.  It’s so easy sometimes to put what you really want to do on the back burner.  Either because life happens or the expense of it all.  Just because you may have to pursue a job that pays the bills for now, doesn’t mean you can’t pursue what your heart desires.

You can:

Do some research online regarding the career path or business.

Go to a seminar, take a class or pursue a degree.

Speak to people doing what you want to do.

Buy a book or two on the subject.

Start to dabble a little bit on the side. 

Say for example you would like to start a bed & breakfast, stay overnight and take good notes.  You’ll observe some good things and certainly some not so good things to avoid.  Get information on what it would cost to run a bed & breakfast.  How many rooms would you like to have?  Organize the information you obtain as you pursue your goal.  Before you know it, you will be saving towards your goal and devising a plan to accomplish it. 

Whatever it is that your heart desires, don’t ever let it go.  Whatever makes you happy is worth doing.  I’m not saying quit your job and follow your dreams.  That would be a personal choice.  I wouldn’t suggest quitting your job because I wouldn’t personally do it myself.  Bills must get paid and we have to be responsible.  I am saying though that you can do something on the side that will lead you closer to the goal.

There are no do overs in life so don’t waste a moment.  This is as good a time as any to follow your dreams and make it happen.  Good luck on your life journey…