Saturday, September 8, 2018

Have you ever met someone who was so nice you seemed to vibe, and then you feel a sense of jealousy from them?  You’re not sure because you’re always supportive of each other.  Why would they be jealous of you?  If this happens with a friend, you can always end the friendship.  Well, what if that person is a family member? A person you loved and believed they loved you.  How confusing is this notion?  It gets worse; the person wants to be you, they want your life.  Scared yet? You should be.  Any person that wants everything you have, your husband your children your life, is an empty person who is not happy with their life.

The level of toxicity can be staggering as they try to sabotage you with every step they take.  Speaking poorly about you to your family and friends, as they try to get closer to your immediate family, it can be all so annoying.  The thing to remember is you can’t be the scapegoat for anyone's failure to have the life of their dreams.  It is their responsibility to do what they need to do, to be happy for their whole life.  It’s really a psychological joke, for that person to after you have done your life’s work, think they can come along and steal it.  This type of person gives  meaning to two sayings, “Get your (own) life” and “Bye Felicia.” 

Although you may understand the issue and try to redirect them to work on herself, she may choose not to.  What is important to know is that you can’t save anyone.  No matter how much you love your family members, everybody has the responsibility of building their own life.  If they are delusional, that certainly won’t fix anything. 

It’s important to keep a safe distance from people who are toxic even if they are in your family.  Keep building the life of your dreams.  It’s your life f-o-r-e-v-e-rrrrrrrr.  Live well!