Diva Living Today

Some women don’t have the first clue on how to be a good friend.  It’s unfortunate because how this world is set up, we need every good friend we can find.  The thing is, the only way to have a good friend is to be one.  It’s really hard on us girls who are die hard good friends, especially when it’s not reciprocated.  Truth is after a few selfish moves on your end, she will say “girl bye”.  So if you’re in the market for a good friend, I have a few ideas that will help you build that relationship into a lasting one.

1.      Treat others the way you would like to be treated.  It doesn’t always have to go your way, take interest in a friend’s choice and go with it. Tomorrow is another day, it’ll be your choice then.

2.     Be a shoulder to cry on and help when help is needed.  No one wants to be the one running to the rescue all the time, sometimes that person needs support too - be there.

3.     A conversation should be fifty- fifty.  A conversation is a two way street.  If you find yourself doing all the talking without even so much as a breath in between, girl you are doing too much.  Take a breath and listen to her opinion.

4.     Keep a secret, Diva everybody doesn’t have to know what you were told.  If it needs to be said, let your girlfriend be the one to say it, not you.

5.     Do something nice for your friend, just because.  Sometimes we have difficult days and taking your sister out to a girls night dinner or hanging out and watching a movie is nice, even when you have something to do.  You’ll always have something to do.  Besides, how strong can your relationship become if you only spend time once a year when you are free.

6.     Be appreciative.  If your friends do something nice for you, make sure you let her know just how much you appreciate the effort.

7.     Buy thoughtful gifts.  People tend to buy what they like and not give thought to the person they are shopping for.  Well diva, next time her birthday comes around focus on your sister’s preferences. 

8.     Watch what you say to your girl, even if you are mad.  Don’t bring weapons of mass destruction to a fist fight. It’s okay to be angry, but don’t be hateful.  Once the words are out there, you can’t take them back.

We can’t fly solo, we need our girls.  Divas know if you abuse people, you will lose people.  My dad always said, "you never miss the water until the well runs dry".   Nurture your relationships, that is the only way they will stay healthy and strong.