Diva Living Today

Have you ever had to speak to someone who has a nasty disposition?  During your conversation, they are constantly throwing shade?  They are working off the assumption that you either don’t understand what they truly mean or you don’t know how to respond.  Bullies come in all shapes and forms, and sometimes they simply need to be ignored, sometimes not.  You decide.

I’m certain diva’s get this all the time, there is always someone who feels like they have to put you in your place.  After all, who do you think you are?  Well diva, apparently they know exactly who you are or they won’t be trying so hard to change who you are in their minds. 

Can I be frank, I have an urgent need to write a letter?  Dear Shady folks, Divas are educated, articulate and trust and believe nothing is going over their head.  I can bet you, for certain, they can more than respond.  Speaking on a personal note, I know of only a few people that can handle my mouth, but I chose to take the high road.  We have the potential to make your ears bleed, just so you know.  Trust me, you don’t want any of this.  Everybody can be nasty, curt, shady and downright disrespectful.  Being obnoxious is not a highly learned skill, we are all capable of it.  Diva’s chose not to negatively engage but don’t take our meekness for weakness - that can change without prior warning. Sincerely a diva that can't be so bothered with the junior high school shenanigans. 

There is a time and a place for everything.  Where, if or when we engage must always be our choice.  We can't let anyone control our behavior ever or cause us to act out of character.  We can chose to respond in like fashion or not – but we know that less is often more.  What we don’t say, is sometimes more powerful and to the point, than what we do.  So when possible, remain calm and smile.  Why, because that is what we choose to do, while we are thinking, "No energy worth wasting here Felica."  

Understand that it don’t make anyone a big person, because they have a big mouth.  Professionalism and self-control dictate that everything that someone thinks, does not have to come out of their mouth - so you would hope.  Someone else's opinion of a person does not change who that person truly is. My father always said, if you don’t have something good to say... don’t say anything.  People should speak to the point and when they think of something shady to say, they should do themselves a personal favor and simply zip the lip.