It’s not always easy to get past a painful situation,
whether it’s a death in the family, a divorce or that dream job you thought you’ll
have forever. Life marches on, people
change, and things change as well. To
successfully get through this life, we have to be accepting of change because
change is the only thing that is consistent.
I know I have said this in a previous blog post, but it is so worth
repeating. We have to be more like trees,
which bend and shift in the storm. The
secret to successfully weathering the storm is being flexible and having that
advance assurance that, this too will end.
And so, what is left to do after the storm has ended? Cry, yes certainly – free your soul. A little discombobulation might be taking place? Yes, take the time you need to settle down and
regroup. Somethings take a minute to
work through. The thing to understand
is, you have to give yourself a reasonable amount of time to work through the situation
and your emotions, but you must absolutely move forward - this is not an
option. It’s unhealthy to remain in a negative space for any length of time, why
would you want to anyway, it only hurts you.
What else must you do after that life crises have shocked
you, hurt you, and broke you down to the core?
What you do is, treat your life like you would a weather beaten house,
you access the damage, save what you can, throw away what is beyond repair and
then…you rebuild. Oh and if there are
things you need to upgrade, yeah throw those away too. This is a great time for a brand new
start. Okay being more practical, you
can give stuff away to good will or sell.
Whatever, just get rid of the unnecessary weight/stuff and anything that is a
regular reminder of what you need to close the door on.
So, now it’s time to do your life work. I think it’s always smart to deal with your
mental health first, so how are you? Do you
need therapy? Diva don’t be afraid or feel
uncomfortable about getting what you need to put you in a good head space. If you need a pastor's counseling or a therapist to help
you navigate your healing, so be it. If
a good sister or a few sisters can help you figure it out and unclog your drains,
hey go with that. Once you are thinking
clearly unhampered by overflowing emotion, it is time to make some life
changing decisions. You must choose to
be happy, choose to be healthy and choose to be wealthy. Yep, they are all choices. You can’t control everything (i.e. Acts of
God) but you can control yourself. It’s
your life, it’s time for you to make the right choices and start the work.
Once you’ve decided what you want, there is only one
thing left to do – go for it. Take one
step at a time and rebuild from the ground up. Purchase yourself a fabulous journal and write out your plan. Personally, once I write it down – it’s done. It becomes real, a true measurable goal and I’m
on it. It’s really a fun process, you may have never thought to undergo it had it not been for the crises. It’s important to understand that all things
work together for good. Sometimes
it’s the most negative things that are the catalyst for the most wonderful
things in your life. You are here, go ahead and enjoy your healing process. Who says it has to be difficult and tumultuous? It is what you make it. You have already gone through the difficult part, this step is easy - enjoy!
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