Diva Living Today

If your husband is cheating on you, would you want to know?  I know this is a very direct question, but it’s worth it to investigate your answer.  No one really wants to think about that possibility, especially if you love your husband very much.  Some women have the mindset, what I don’t know can’t hurt me.  And although I emphatically disagree, I understand that once you know, everything will change.  I also understand that there is often more at stake than one would initially think, you have to enter these gates with caution but enter them you must.     

 While we are on the subject of the truth, another truth is that whatever is done in darkness will eventually come to light.  So, unless we want to intentionally ignore all the warning signs and kill all the messengers, we will eventually come face to face with our reality.  Oh, and yes, there will be messengers.  Some of your messengers will be people that are simply “messy boots”.  They will be very glad to be in your business sharing the bad news like Channel 9 News.  But, there may also be messengers that care about you and don’t want to see you placed in a compromised position, so don’t kill the messenger.

While it is important to determine whether you would want to know if your husband is cheating on you, I think the bigger question is, if he is, what are you going to do?  There is no quick one size fits all rule of how to handle such a situation.  No one can tell you what your next steps should be, the truth is, only you can make that decision when and if that time comes.  In most cases, women usually don’t know exactly what they will do until they are placed in that position.  I hope you never experience such a thing, but if you don’t, someone you know certainly will.  Having some idea of how things may go will be helpful towards your resolve.  You literally have to create a scientific equation to prepare yourself.  (i.e. If this happens, that I will do this, but if that happens, I  will have to do that…)  It could go on and on.  The best thing to do is to make sure your cash flow is right.  What if you know that your girlfriend’s husband is cheating on her?  Should you tell her, would you tell her?  Perhaps one day more women will talk about these matters and share their honest feelings.  I have asked a few of my girlfriends and all but one said they would want to know.  In my opinion all of those decisions should be respected.  Sometimes it’s best to let people work out their own situation, especially if they share with you they would not want to know.

I personally don’t believe that anyone should make a hasty decision when they are upset.  I believe that if it’s possible to save the marriage (meaning both parties are willing to do what is necessary to get back on track) then that should happen.  No one can be in a marriage alone, so unfortunately some marriages will come to an end – simply because, it takes two.  At the end of the day each woman has to make the hard decisions on what she wants to know and what she will do about it when she finds out.  What’s important here is that some thought on the subject is conducted.  Divas should know, where they would live and how the bills will be paid.  If you have that much figured out, the rest will be easier to deal with.