Diva Living Today

I read a research paper that confirmed what I already knew, body language speaks louder than words.  A researcher named Albert Mehrabian conducted a study on body language and communication and published his finding in 1971.  He said that words accounted for 7 percent of the overall message, 38 percent is the tone of voice, but a whopping 55 percent of communication is body language.

Anyone who majored in leadership know that when you are conducting an interview the candidate’s lips may say yes, his tone might say maybe, but if the body language says no – it’s a wrap, next.  The thing about integrity is, if you have it – integrity will always shine through.  It will be the consistent you.   No work involved, its natural.  But we have to be willing to put in the work to improve who we are as a person.

You can only be your best self if you know who you are right now and work on improving anything that is not aligned with excellence.  When you do what you have to do, to get where you have to go, it will be quite the accomplishment.  Then when integrity meets confidence your best self will naturally shine through.  When that happens, your overall message, tone, and body language will match one hundred percent.  Now don’t be surprised that as soon as that happens, you awake a few haters.  It might trigger a few hater steers, (i.e. Who does she think she is.)  But remember when integrity and confidence shines through your crystal clear on who you are – apparently they know too.  Unfortunately, some people even friends feel more comfortable with you when you are struggling.  Don’t worry about the haters, you can’t stop the rain.  Perhaps they too have an underlying beneficial purpose – not your concern.

Focus on you.  Become the person that you inspire to be by making the commitment to change.  Look at models of excellence.  Pay attention to people that are about it, there is something you may be able to learn from them.  Don’t listen to someone telling you what to do right, if what they are saying did not work for them, but that topic is another whole blog post girl.

Whatever you don’t like about you, bottom line – fix it.