Do yourself a favor and don’t marry a loser.  There are times when you can compromise.  You can accept certain behaviors and beliefs that are not necessarily your own.  But, when you marry someone who is your polar opposite you are signing on for more than you know.  There are people out there that have decided to make “How low can you go” their anthem.  At some point you will have to decide, do you want to lower your standards so low to get a spouse that you can no longer recognize yourself.  What is your happiness worth to you, hopefully, more than “I do.” 

Marry someone who will love you for you.  Who will respect, honor and cherish you?  Marry someone who will live the rest of his life making sure that you are happy as you do the same for him.  You need someone who is consistently honest with who he is.  This is not the time to appreciate the abilities of a chameleon. The last thing you want to do is wake up to find out; you have been living with a stranger. Diva, when it comes to choosing a life partner, choose carefully, choose well. Give your marriage the best chance of being a happy, healthy long lasting relationship.  Marry someone that doesn’t play games out the gate. If he has no class before the marriage, there is a strong chance, he won’t have any after it.  The old folks use to say don’t write a check that your behind can’t cash.  

It’s summertime, and there are so many places to go, where shall I start.  If you haven’t been to Grounds for Sculpture in New Jersey, you need to go and check it out.  It’s a beautiful mix of a variety of art, beautiful sculptures and gardens, just amazing. Don’t overlook the Big Apple baby.  A horse ride through the central park is still amazing.  Broadway shows this summer is absolutely fabulous.  Shows like Aladdin, Frozen and Once on the Island will certainly put a smile on your face.  If you live in Philadelphia, you already know.  I recommend the Spirit of Philadelphia dinner cruise, but there are shows, flea markets and festivals in all three states.

Whatever you do, get out of the house and enjoy the best that these states have to offer.  Fresh air and fun.  Who could ask for anything more? Hey, why not state hop.  Road trip….

Why living la Vida loga is not necessarily the best idea. The crazy life doesn’t really work for Divas.  Why you ask? Because, Divas operate with a plan.  Living like a nut is not what we do.  If you go through life without a plan, chances are, you won’t be very successful.  Life demands attention.  You would get through it better if you mapped it out.  Whether you’re in school or making your way up the corporate ladder.  You stand a chance to win with a plan. Without one well, it’s a crapshoot.

So next time you think about living on the edge without a plan, remember these words of wisdom.  The edge is no place to walk or live.  It’s dangerous, stay in the middle of the road.   Your future self will thank you for caring enough about it to plan.

What do you do when you want something so bad, and it always seems just shortly out of your reach.  I’ll tell you what you do; you keep reaching.  Giving up is not what Diva’s do honey- ever.  Just know, we keep finding new ways to get a little closer to the goal.  Maybe a small shift or a move to the side.  Something, anything but quit.  Why because quitting means you will never reach the goal.  It’s not in our vocabulary at least not as it pertains to our goals. 

What we will do is regroup and think about what we need to do differently, what can we do to change our outcome.  What do we need, what strategy, what plan?  As long as there is a sun in the sky, we know that we can and will get there, the question is not will we get there, the question is when. And if you know anything about a Diva, it won’t be long; you can set your clock by us.  We are always on time, and we don’t waste it.  Just when you think, she won’t make it, she wins.  Smooches.

Summer is coming, and we should make every effort to spend as much time in the great outdoors as we can.  Why?  Because we spend most of the winter indoors and this is a wonderful opportunity to take in some fresh air – something that our bodies need to stay healthy and strong.  Also, vitamin D from the sun is a great idea as well.  Don’t forget to put on sunscreen. I’m going to list a few fun things you can do outdoors.  Get ready to get out of dodge Divas.

Go for a walk in your neighborhood

Day trip, take off.  It doesn’t matter where?

Learn how to play tennis

Learn how to ride a horse, horseback riding can be fun.

Read in the park

Go for a walk on the beach

Go on a bike ride

Take a tour bus ride of your city.

Go on a local 4-hour cruise.

Go on a nature walk and take pictures

Go to a park ‘n ride movie

Go to a concert in the park

Go to the beach or your neighborhood pool

Visit your local outdoor fruit and vegetable market

Walk through a flea market

Go bird or butterfly watching at your local Botanical Garden

If you give it some thought, I’m sure you will find other ways to enjoy the outdoors.  Make a list, check it twice and check off this wonderful to do list after you have done each thing.  Soak up the sun and have some fun.  Smooches.

Why is it that some women have such a difficult time being supportive of each other?  Must it always be a cat fight to the top? Isn’t there enough obstacles that we face every day, like stereotypes, racism, sexism and more ‘isms.  Must we be the burden bearers and the burden causers?  What is going on in America people, why can’t we get it together?  Can we all use the excuse we have been dropped on our head in infancy?  Is there a reason why so many of us sit in wait to trip up the cute girls, the smart girls, the ambitious sisters. Just how many psychotherapists do we need to make millionaires before these ladies get their life?  

As I sit by and watch women tear each other to shreds with their mouth and behavior, I can only wonder.  What is missing in these “F Grade” running on empty women’s life that makes them so hateful?  Divas as intelligent women we have to flip the script on this type of behavior.  Get in front of the foolishness and don’t give haters a minute of our precious time.  If their mission is to use us to hurt or embarrass another sister, DIVA SHUT…IT…DOWN!  

It is always surprising to me how people get so caught up with degrees, positions and wealth.  Why are we so easily taken by high positions or wealthy people?  Even those people don’t understand that viewpoint since they go through life struggles as well. They may not have financial problems but there are a lot of other life problems that every human being experiences and money can’t fix them.  Don’t be so willing to put people on a pedestal. Divas understand that it’s more important to look up to and idealize people with character, integrity, and standards than it is to bow down to people who may appear financially successful.

Having a bachelors, masters or doctorates do not a high priestess make honey, get your life!  Respect all people because they are people.  Their degree doesn’t make them a gift. Don’t get me wrong I can appreciate people who have followed their dreams and were willing to put in the hard work to complete their educational program,  I did.  But doing so do not make me feel in any way superior and I don’t look up to people as if they were Gods because they have done the same.  This kind of thinking speaks more to the thinker’s self-esteem than it does to the people being idolized.  I’m not so easily impressed.  But if you are into high status, do know that there are billionaires that have never been to college.  Don’t get stuck on what you think might be prestigious.  Focus on being a happy healthy member of the human race.  Don’t be a fan be a star.