What do you do when you want something so bad, and it always seems just shortly out of your reach.  I’ll tell you what you do; you keep reaching.  Giving up is not what Diva’s do honey- ever.  Just know, we keep finding new ways to get a little closer to the goal.  Maybe a small shift or a move to the side.  Something, anything but quit.  Why because quitting means you will never reach the goal.  It’s not in our vocabulary at least not as it pertains to our goals. 

What we will do is regroup and think about what we need to do differently, what can we do to change our outcome.  What do we need, what strategy, what plan?  As long as there is a sun in the sky, we know that we can and will get there, the question is not will we get there, the question is when. And if you know anything about a Diva, it won’t be long; you can set your clock by us.  We are always on time, and we don’t waste it.  Just when you think, she won’t make it, she wins.  Smooches.

Summer is coming, and we should make every effort to spend as much time in the great outdoors as we can.  Why?  Because we spend most of the winter indoors and this is a wonderful opportunity to take in some fresh air – something that our bodies need to stay healthy and strong.  Also, vitamin D from the sun is a great idea as well.  Don’t forget to put on sunscreen. I’m going to list a few fun things you can do outdoors.  Get ready to get out of dodge Divas.

Go for a walk in your neighborhood

Day trip, take off.  It doesn’t matter where?

Learn how to play tennis

Learn how to ride a horse, horseback riding can be fun.

Read in the park

Go for a walk on the beach

Go on a bike ride

Take a tour bus ride of your city.

Go on a local 4-hour cruise.

Go on a nature walk and take pictures

Go to a park ‘n ride movie

Go to a concert in the park

Go to the beach or your neighborhood pool

Visit your local outdoor fruit and vegetable market

Walk through a flea market

Go bird or butterfly watching at your local Botanical Garden

If you give it some thought, I’m sure you will find other ways to enjoy the outdoors.  Make a list, check it twice and check off this wonderful to do list after you have done each thing.  Soak up the sun and have some fun.  Smooches.

Why is it that some women have such a difficult time being supportive of each other?  Must it always be a cat fight to the top? Isn’t there enough obstacles that we face every day, like stereotypes, racism, sexism and more ‘isms.  Must we be the burden bearers and the burden causers?  What is going on in America people, why can’t we get it together?  Can we all use the excuse we have been dropped on our head in infancy?  Is there a reason why so many of us sit in wait to trip up the cute girls, the smart girls, the ambitious sisters. Just how many psychotherapists do we need to make millionaires before these ladies get their life?  

As I sit by and watch women tear each other to shreds with their mouth and behavior, I can only wonder.  What is missing in these “F Grade” running on empty women’s life that makes them so hateful?  Divas as intelligent women we have to flip the script on this type of behavior.  Get in front of the foolishness and don’t give haters a minute of our precious time.  If their mission is to use us to hurt or embarrass another sister, DIVA SHUT…IT…DOWN!  

It is always surprising to me how people get so caught up with degrees, positions and wealth.  Why are we so easily taken by high positions or wealthy people?  Even those people don’t understand that viewpoint since they go through life struggles as well. They may not have financial problems but there are a lot of other life problems that every human being experiences and money can’t fix them.  Don’t be so willing to put people on a pedestal. Divas understand that it’s more important to look up to and idealize people with character, integrity, and standards than it is to bow down to people who may appear financially successful.

Having a bachelors, masters or doctorates do not a high priestess make honey, get your life!  Respect all people because they are people.  Their degree doesn’t make them a gift. Don’t get me wrong I can appreciate people who have followed their dreams and were willing to put in the hard work to complete their educational program,  I did.  But doing so do not make me feel in any way superior and I don’t look up to people as if they were Gods because they have done the same.  This kind of thinking speaks more to the thinker’s self-esteem than it does to the people being idolized.  I’m not so easily impressed.  But if you are into high status, do know that there are billionaires that have never been to college.  Don’t get stuck on what you think might be prestigious.  Focus on being a happy healthy member of the human race.  Don’t be a fan be a star.    

Understanding that life is a fleeting gift, we must live each day with excitement and intensity.  It would be silly to behave as if we have 100 promised years on this planet – we don’t.  I’m determined to bring my “A game” every day.  Anything less would be a true waste of precious time, time I will never get back.

Divas have to ask themselves what do I want and go get that.  Nothing in life has ever been handed to us, and we don’t expect the rest of our lives to be any different.  So, we intend to stay focused and run our race.  Who said that life would be easy, not I.  But easy was never the way things go for us.  Divas are prepared to do what it takes to get where we want to get and do what we want to do to be happy.  And yes, we are up to the challenge.

So the next time you think of straying from the path, remember you have one life to live, and the best thing you can do for you is ensure you enjoy every minute of it.  Live on purpose!

 

 

I learned an important life lesson that I want to scream from the rooftop, but I’ll settle sharing it with 2000 bloggers.  Authentic people win.  You have to be absolutely you.  Whoever you are, your authentic self is what people would want to see.  It is what will make people gravitate to you.  Don’t change that.  The only thing you need to do is make sure that you are being your best self.  Work off the rough edges and fortify your personality.

 

Don’t think, not even for a minute that you should quiet your soul.  Don’t hide, don’t stand in the corner.  Take your rightful place in the middle of the room.  And every genuine soul will know you are there and be glad to walk towards you.

Minding my own business, and doing what I need to do is me all day every day.  So why is it that haters continue to try me?  Is it because they are unhappy with their unfulfilled life and need to make someone a target of their personal disappointment and I just happened to be the chosen one.  Is it because they confused being meek with being weak?  Or could it be they are so troubled by my energy to be the best I can be that jealousy is raising its ugly head?

Whatever the reason or combination of reasons that cause haters to hate, Divas know that nothing stops this train.  How I move forward in life is not going to change, unless it changes for the better.  But my biggest concern is, that there are sisters out there so lost in their own head so much in their own way, that they are failing to do their own work, ‘cause they are so worried about mine. 

It has gotten to a point where, I can’t even be mad anymore, like most divas I wish I could save them.  I wish I could say, girl, let me help you, this is how it is done.  But their hate and unwarranted rage get in the way.  The most a hater can be is fuel for my success.  But honestly, I wish they would use it to fuel their own.  I trust that one day, they will get their life, but until then, I must say au revoir, adios, buy hater.