Why is it that every time you finally get into the position to change your life something or someone stops you.  We work so hard to get in the right head space, move the major obstacles out the way and then like clockwork, someone casts a black cloud over our dream and dam, we are right back where we started, fighting self-doubt and frustration.

Well, this is what you do.  Stop listening to people who always have so much to say, yet nothing positive.  A poor man can't tell you how to become a millionaire, no more than Negative Nancy can provide you with sound advice. 

Start over, move the negative stuff out the way and fight to change your life.  Why?  Because you only have one life and if you keep playing around with knuckleheads and not focus on living well, it will be sadly over. 

So many people live their whole and never live it to the fullest.  Don't make that mistake, make the change while you still can.  Do what you need to do to bring happiness into your atmosphere.  Make it happen and oh, tell Negative Nancy, stop worrying about your life and get her own.

Diva Get Your Life is my new book and can be bought at bookstores near you including Barnes & Nobles, Amazon, and 13 other bookstores.  You won't want to miss it.  Check out my website at JoyceChaseEnterprises.com - stay connected.  Live Well Sisters!!!!

Living the dream or living a nightmare.  Hey, the one thing about life is that you get to choose.  It doesn't matter how your story begins, you may not have control as a child.  But how it ends is truly up to you.

There are no magic buttons in life.  We don't get to press a button and voila things are perfect.  If it were that easy I would have a few magic buttons, well shined and cared.  And, yes I would have a weight glued to the top of each one because I need a perfect life at all times okay.  Well, folks, that is not how it works.  Reality dictates that if we want to live well, we have to put in the work.  You have to come up with a plan to improve your circumstance and implement that plan.  Or you could do the zombie walk through life and wait and see how it turns out.  Do know there is a 99% change if you do this, you will be living a nightmare.  The choice is yours diva.

We don't give enough time to bonding with our sisters and building strong relationships.  I know life is busy, the kids, husband, career, etc.  However, I am a strong believer that you find time for things that are important to you.  The thing then is, to make spending time with your sisters important to you.

It doesn't matter whether these women are sisters by birth or women who have supported you along the way.  If the relationship is of any value to you, if you don't nurture it, like everything else that doesn't get attention - it will eventually go away.  In High School, we usually have about 20 girlfriends but by the time we hit 30, without effort - we are lucky to have one.

Every sister needs a sister.  Someone you can talk to when things are going great and when life is a challenge.  Bouncing ideas off of someone who has your best interest at heart is priceless.

If you are fortunate enough to have a few good sisters who have been with you through thick and thin, hold on to those relationships.  They don't come every day, and they don't last forever unless we work to make that so.

I can give you ten (10) good reasons why you can’t put your life on hold for anyone, and I mean anyone for any reason:

 1  Life is too short.

2  You don’t get the wasted time back.

3  While you’re putting your life on hold, your friend, boyfriend, or whoever is living their life.

4.  You deserve to live an awesome life.

5.  You deserve to live an awesome life today!

6.  Opportunities don’t last forever; you can’t afford to miss one chance to experience something 

     wonderful.

7.  Because you’re the master of your circumstance.  You know it’s up to you to make sure   

     your life rock.  Not later but right now.

8.  Despite your circumstance, you can choose to be happy.  Choose well because, if you’re   

     not happy after a while, you will be the only one left to blame.

9.  You can't afford to lose track of your purpose, your goals or your dreams.  Who could

     be that important.

   10.  At the end of your life, you don’t want to look back and say to yourself, I lost five years, 

          five days or five minutes waiting.  I’d rather say I lived 70, 80, 90 years on fire.

It's all about you girl.  That's right, I wrote a book about Diva's and how we live with fabulosity, honey.  Living a purposeful, happy life takes work.  But isn't that what we do.  Diva Get Your Life is currently in Barnes & Nobles.  It's coming to Amazon and 12 other bookstores including internationally.  Get your copy today.  It's amazing - if I do say so myself.

Have you ever met someone who was so nice you seemed to vibe, and then you feel a sense of jealousy from them?  You’re not sure because you’re always supportive of each other.  Why would they be jealous of you?  If this happens with a friend, you can always end the friendship.  Well, what if that person is a family member? A person you loved and believed they loved you.  How confusing is this notion?  It gets worse; the person wants to be you, they want your life.  Scared yet? You should be.  Any person that wants everything you have, your husband your children your life, is an empty person who is not happy with their life.

The level of toxicity can be staggering as they try to sabotage you with every step they take.  Speaking poorly about you to your family and friends, as they try to get closer to your immediate family, it can be all so annoying.  The thing to remember is you can’t be the scapegoat for anyone's failure to have the life of their dreams.  It is their responsibility to do what they need to do, to be happy for their whole life.  It’s really a psychological joke, for that person to after you have done your life’s work, think they can come along and steal it.  This type of person gives  meaning to two sayings, “Get your (own) life” and “Bye Felicia.” 

Although you may understand the issue and try to redirect them to work on herself, she may choose not to.  What is important to know is that you can’t save anyone.  No matter how much you love your family members, everybody has the responsibility of building their own life.  If they are delusional, that certainly won’t fix anything. 

It’s important to keep a safe distance from people who are toxic even if they are in your family.  Keep building the life of your dreams.  It’s your life f-o-r-e-v-e-rrrrrrrr.  Live well!